Although homosexuality may pose a problem sometimes, it is not a disease. Apart from the fact that he is erotically attracted to men rather than women, a homosexual does not have to be distinguished from a heterosexual person, and may be equally masculine in behavior and persistent in his sexual relationships.
Social discrimination against homosexuals is based largely on prejudices and affects many homosexuals. Fortunately, the society in the developed countries of the West is more tolerant of this phenomenon that was once considered ”perversion”, which even promises homosexuals a more peaceful life.
It is unknown why homosexuality is manifested, though the most important factors, it seems, are psychological rather than physical.
In almost every man’s life we could find a slight homosexual ”episode”, especially in adolescence. Such experiences are common in masculine communities deprived of feminine societies, such as boys’ internats. However, most adult males in the mixed society do not feel any sexual attraction to other men. In the UK, only about 5% of men are homosexuals; the percentage is slightly higher, perhaps 10%, if we include bisexuals in that group.
What to do?
Sexual orientation is something that you will usually discover, not choose. If you have felt an attraction toward other men during the adolescence, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be attracted to girls later on. However, if at a mature age you find that you are only sexually excited by men, you might consider yourself a homosexual. If you accept this fact, you do not have to look for help – unless you are sexually attracted to small boys (in that case, you should talk to your doctor or psychiatrist, immediately and openly).
If homosexuality is bothering you and if it is something that you cannot accept, you may be able to contact psychotherapists at the appropriate hospital departments. Treatment is usually conducted with group psychotherapy; there is also the possibility of individual (deep) psychotherapy or psychoanalysis. Treatment only makes sense if it is homosexuality of a psychogenic nature, i.e. if a homosexuality is a reflection of a person’s neuroticism.
There is also psychological therapy for homosexuals who want to become heterosexuals, and your doctor will probably be able to refer you to a suitable place (hospital, clinic, etc.). Psychotherapy is usually focused on examining the root causes of the problem (i.e. homosexuality), reducing anxiety due to heterosexual contacts and enhancing heterosexual stimulation. A psychiatrist will also help you to make social contacts with women more easily.