For the first few weeks of life, an average child sleeps a lot, but when he/she is awake cries often and very hard. An infants who cry weakly and rarely may be seriously ill.
Only after about six weeks of life, the infant becomes aware of his/hers surroundings, so there are times when an infant is awake and does not cry. The number of these periods increases with the infant’s growth, and on average until the sixth month of life an infant spends a total of three to four hours without crying.
Some newborns cry most of the time when they should be sleeping, and when they are six months old they cry most of the time when they should be playing. Crying at that stage can be called excessive.
If a mother is happy, the child will be mostly cheerful and happy. Likewise, anxious mother will transmit anxiety to a child who will then sleep badly and cry excessively. Here comes the problem: if the baby cries more,, the mother is worried. Mother then can be angry at the infant, and he will they cry even more.
Excessive crying is more common in the first child than in the second. This is because mother is still inexperienced and is often worried and unsure if she will be able to take care of the baby. The mother rarely understands that her mental state is often the major cause of excessive crying. There are other reasons for excessive crying; here are some possible causes:
Tooth eruption: in a child, first teeth grows between six months and two years of age. At the point where tooth erupts, gums are often slightly swollen and inflamed, and the infant cries because of this. But, the inflammation quickly calms down. Even when several teeth come out, this should not be the cause of occasional crying for more than three or four days.
Abdominal pain: there is no reason why normal breastfeeding (either natural or artificial) would cause a healthy baby to suffer from abdominal pain. If a newborn is crying uncontrollably for several hours in the evening, the cause is probably a severe abdominal pain. However, although some doctors believe that this is a real physical pain, others think it is an example of a reaction to the mother’s tension at the end of a hard day, and that the crying stops after 10 to 12 weeks because after that time the mother is more self-confident and skilled in dealing with the child, and transfers that calmness to the infant.
Urinating: sometimes the baby cries while urinating. Because of this, some mothers think that urinating is painful and causes excessive crying. However, in most cases the baby cries before and actually causes urination. A cry increases pressure in the abdomen, and the bladder is more thoroughly emptied.
In a very small number of infants who cry excessively, something is really wrong. Perhaps the infant has got an infection that is characterized by elevated temperature, nasal discharge, cough, vomiting, diarrhea, weak appetite, or generally poor development. Do not forget that the infant may be lonely and needs comfort; if that is the case, all you need to do is to take him to your arms. Infants occasionally cry if they don’t like the food you give them or if it is not enough. If you are convinced that a child is not feeling lonely, is not sick, and eats enough, then you have to face the fact that he feels your mental state and responds to it.
What to do?
If you are tired of night-care sessions with your infants, try to catch a few hours of sleep during the day, at the same time as your baby is sleeping. Put your housework on a different plan, because your health and health of your baby are much more important. Accept any help, especially from a partner who is willing to help you. Go out occasionally and ask your cousin or friend – or any other person you can rely on – to feed your baby with a bottle of milk (yours or artifical). If you find that you are still tense and sometimes angry at your child, contact your nurse or doctor immediately. They will find practical ways to help you overcome the difficulties and ease your anxiety.